To succeed as a married couple, it is essential to develop good communication, teamwork, patience, and trust. All these characteristics are formed from the time you start dating, but all of the things you’ve learned will be tested once you are engaged and planning the wedding.
Planning a wedding is an enormous task that involves a lot of decision making. By working as a couple, you can avoid putting the burden on just the bride and learn how to compromise with each other. If you want your groom to become more involved, here are a few tips on how to get him to be more enthusiastic about preparing for your big day.
In the past, grooms were lead to believe that wedding planning was left to the bride. However, the modern bride now works a full-time job just as the groom does. Ultimately, the wedding is not just a celebration for the bride, but for both the bride and groom. It is best to make the planning a team effort by bringing the groom along to appointments and making major decisions together.
Narrow down his choices.
This is a trick you will likely learn from preschool teachers: Give your groom two or three choices instead of an overwhelming number. For instance, unless he’s into design, you may want to take charge on whittling down your color scheme options. So instead of saying, “What should our signature colors be?” you could ask, “Which do you prefer: lavender and gray or hot pink and teal?”
Tap into his skills.
It takes a village and a host of third party providers to plan a wedding. With a number of parts you need to get together, you need all the help you can get. Your groom may have incredible skills to make preparing for your big day less taxing.
If your groom has an artistic eye, designing the wedding invitations is the perfect way for him to use his craft in a meaningful and memorable way. After you both decide on the theme and the color palette, let his creative genius take over to create a custom invitation suite that speaks to your unique style as a couple. If he wants to take it one step further, ask him to design the wedding page as well (if you want to keep your guests updated on social media). His attention to detail and his ability to create an aesthetically pleasing design will ensure you have a site your guests will love.
Just because you want him to enjoy planning doesn’t mean you should be stuck with all the essential, sometimes difficult tasks. He is your partner after all, so ask for his help and support. He might want to help, but just doesn’t know where to start or what to do, so create a designated task list and schedule.
Leave the honeymoon to him.
Planning a honeymoon may not be as time-consuming as planning a wedding, but we think it’s an equally important part of the entire process of getting married. This is your first trip as husband and wife, so you want it to be well-planned! If your groom has a naturally adventurous spirit and the ability to put together a great trip, let him run with it! We recommend setting the expectation early about whether you want your honeymoon to be active, relaxing, or a healthy mix of both. But, once you’re on the same page, your adventurous hubby-to-be will love planning every detail — and all you have to do is pack and get ready to relax!