I bet you still have that smiling face after getting officially engaged!
The flutter beating of your heart, that rapid breathing… that’s excitement right?
Uh… no, no!
Don’t listen to that anxious voice slowly creeping in your brain and overwhelming you with worry.
Don’t overthink, feel.
I got your back remember?
Here’s some basic steps to consider after you said ‘Yes’.
Basic Step #1: Set a date as soon as you can.
Trust me when I say that organizing a wedding takes a lot of coordination. To say the least, you should have a general timeframe to help you pin down vendors, venues, guests. If you have someone who you absolutely need to there on your wedding day, having a definite date (well in advanced) could definitely assist them in re-arranging their existing commitments (work or planned holiday).
Basic Step #2: Set a budget.
Sit with your fiancé and re-look at your combined income and expenses. As a team, decide how much you can save between now and your wedding date, and how much of that amount you are happy to set aside for your wedding expenses. Also consider relatives who may be able to contribute to your honeypot. Note: I said consider not expect. 💖
Basic Step #3: Build your tribe.
After deciding the number of guests you’d like to have on your day, you and your fiancé can start contacting your wedding party. Think of people who can and will be committed to help you with the preparations. By the way, before you get over caffeinated, remember that having a large wedding party also means that you will need to coordinate multiple people with multiple schedules and priorities. Likewise, if you prefer to keep things simple and go without a wedding party -that’s your call, friend!
Basic Step #4: Research Venue, Officiant & Vendors
If you have already set your heart on a venue – BOOK THAT NOW.
(There’s no time like the present!)
If you haven’t, then it pays to do your research first and look at venues which will fit your budget and wedding concept (traditional, garden, beach). Some things to consider when researching your venue includes: distance, package inclusion (staff, set-up and pack down, catering), amenities, guest capacities, car park, corkage fee or any extra fees. It’ll also be very practical to do site visits, so that your expectations matches reality. Depending on your religion, spiritual orientation or absence there of, it is also important to book your officiant well in advance. By advance, I mean around 9 to 18 months.
· Decide if you are getting a wedding coordinator. Some offers services which include planning your wedding from scratch to coordinating on the day or just a day coordinator.
· Photographer/Videographer. Do your research. Look at their portfolios, previous works and reviews. Meet them in person, if you can. Ask how long it takes to get the printed photos or completed videos. Also consider, if you’d like to have engagement/pre-nup photos taken, and if you can get this for a discounted price.
· Caterers and Alcohol/Non-Alcohol Tab. If this is not included in your venue then it will be good to do a fair research on local caterers in your area. Ask about buffet or plated options. Based on your initial budget, set aside an amount for your alcohol/non-alcohol tab.
· Florist. While most brides have traditional floral arrangements and sits down with a florist, you may feel that silk arrangement is for you. If so, consider looking at available market online. Or if you are lucky, there may be a local shop that is already near you!
· Hair & Make up. Decide on the style that you want for your big day, hair up vs hair down (or both!), day or night make-up. Attend trial hair and make-up to see how the style will look at you.
· Music. If you can, see and hear your potential musicians perform live otherwise, some records their music and upload it on their site.
· Transportation. If you are having two separate locations (for ceremony and reception), transport is an important considerations. Popular wedding transportations include limos and vintage cars.
Basic Step #5: Create your timeline
Be your own Wedding Police Officer and set due dates for your self. Know how far ahead you need to book a specific vendor and keep an eye on your budget. Refer to your wedding inspiration to ensure that your style is cohesive and true to you and your fiancé. Most importantly have fun and celebrate little achievements!